Getting Started

              “Procrastination is the thief of time” ~ Edward Young

You picked up this book, because you are not happy with a relationship in your life, you have no relationship, or you just left a relationship. You want to find the perfect person for YOU! You have probably exhausted yourself trying to find this person, and you have given up hope that they are even out there.

You want someone in your life, but you don’t know where to start. So, you try random things to find the right person, trying this, then that, and back again. There is no rhyme or reason to your behavior and then you become frustrated because you are not getting anywhere on your road to love. Then, you give up, only to try again later, doing it all over again.

Many years ago, I was told, “"If you always do what you've always done you'll always get what you've always gotten." I learned this quote was from  Peter Urs Bender, keynote speaker and best selling author of five books including "Leadership from Within".  He also warns, "If you continue to do what you've always done - you will get less. Just to stay even you must change what you do - and to grow you must change drastically how you do it." Bender was speaking about communication and leadership skills. However, I have learned that business concepts can frequently be used in life skills as well. This is one of those concepts.

Getting Ready for Love

“It is necessary for the happiness of man that he be mentally faithful to himself”~ Thomas Payne

“All things are ready if our minds be so” ~ William Shakespeare

There is a magical aspect to finding your true love, a feeling that seems to seep through your very soul as he or she comes into your life. But before you get to that point, there is work to do. We become stagnant in our thoughts, and our lives become too congested for love to find its way in. You might have some have healing to do. Everyone must make their life “love-friendly”.

Ok, so how do you do this? Believe it or not, it is not as hard as you may think. It will take some time, and effort, but if the big prize at the end is the love of your life, isn’t it worth it?

Let’s get started . . . . .                

 First things first 

  

“Out of clutter find simplicity; From discord find harmony; In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.”

 Albert Einstein

I know we are here to find a soul mate, but, before you can even begin to look, you need to take care of some personal things first – like your emotional baggage. Besides, there is no law that says you can’t start living until you find Mr or Ms Right.

To start, you need to stop hating the single life. You need to find yourself before you find your soul mate. Once you're happy with yourself, a soul mate can make you even happier, but no one can fill the emptiness created by not knowing who you are. In fact, it is wrong of you to even expect that of someone else.

Start living now . . . Enjoy your life, go out with friends, and seek paths of self improvement. Spend time developing or pursuing current interests. Seek adventure.  Take classes, and do things that help you grow personally, spiritually, and professionally. Work on creating the life you want to be leading--even if there is no one to share it with yet--and in the process, you will create a fuller, richer, and more welcoming you.

Don't obsess over finding your soul mate. Coming off as needy and desperate for love is not attractive to a soul mate - nor to anyone else, for that matter! In fact, being desperate seems to put off a sense that attracts abusive people. They prey on those who are insecure and in need of having someone. We will discuss this person later, but for now, trust me; you do not want to become this person’s next target. Just be yourself, keep an open mind, and wait.

Spend the next 24 hours thinking about this, and tomorrow, we begin:

  

“Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet” ~ Jean Jacques Rousseau