Introduction continued

As my son got older and more independent, I realized that I was becoming lonely. I knew that once he left home, my life was going to be too quiet. I would have no one. But, I was still sure that I did not want a man in my life, either, did I?

I learned what I am about to teach you by accident. I tripped along this path with no guidance, no help, and no encouragement. I did these things I am about to teach you based on what I had learned in my Psychology classes, and even an art class. I also learned them on the long rough road I took to finding my true love. There were detours, and my own mistakes that made this a very long journey. It took me almost 13 years to find true love. If I can shorten your walk, I will have succeeded in my goal.

 One night, I sat down and looked at the list of the traits of my perfect man, which I had done for my counselor. Why I had saved it, I don’t know. I had kept it in a book with all my poetry, so it was safe from harm, and forgotten. I had reached a point in my life where I could not longer write poetry.

From what I had learned, I developed a plan. I had no idea where I was going with it, but at least I started it.

I want to give you the tools you need to find love, and to avoid the pitfalls that I encountered. I want to give you the encouragement to follow through. I am doing all of this because there is such a prize at the end of this journey, I want everyone to find the happiness that I have found.

I am a person of convictions. I have found myself compelled to write this book. I am so happy in my life, I almost feel guilty. I want others to have the happiness I have found. I have shared some of these ideas with others, and it seems to change people overnight. When you know that there is someone out there for you, it gives you hope.

All of my friends and my family have encouraged me to write this. Everyone I meet, when they hear the story of Jerry and I, and see how happy we are, they want to know how they can do the same.

Happiness creates optimistic people. Seek out happy people. You will not find a pessimist in the bunch. Happiness and pessimism are opposites! 

            When you find your soul mate, I would like to hear from you. I love happy endings . . . . or rather, beginnings.

Special note:

I refer to people in the he/him form, because I am a woman. This does not mean that this won’t work for a man, too. After all, my husband, Jerry, subconsciously did the same things, and found me!